Think of a goal you set yourself, before you started practising gratitude, that you failed to achieve, for whatever reason.
It could have been that life got in the way, that your priorities changed, that it simply wasn’t achievable. It doesn’t matter why you didn’t achieve it, just that you didn’t.
How did you feel after you failed to achieve it?
When you failed, did your focus go to the end result, the failure, or did you focus on everything you had done and accomplished to even get that far in the process? Most likely you focused on failing to meet your goal and, as a result, you felt pretty lousy.
How would that have changed if you practised gratitude throughout the time you were working towards that goal?
When you have a gratitude practice, you focus on everything you’re grateful for in the present moment and you find good in everything.
So, let’s look back to that goal as if it were something you had been achieving as you practised daily gratitude.
If you had been practising daily gratitude, every day you stepped closer to the final destination of that goal, you would have expressed gratitude for all you had learned and achieved that day and up to that point.
So, look back now at the journey towards that goal and see how much you can find to be grateful for. What did you learn along the way? How did you grow as a result of walking towards this goal?
And then, at the end you failed. A gratitude practice teaches us to find the positive and the good in every outcome. You may have failed to achieve your goal but what positives can you find arising out of that perceived failure? How did you benefit from seemingly failing?
When you look at the end result, can you now say that it was still a failure? Yes you didn’t achieve exactly what you wanted. However, whenever you review your path, everything you learned, how you grew and changed, and how you can take something positive from the end result, can you honestly still say you failed? I don’t think so.