start monday with gratitude

week 40

Welcome to Week 40, lovely soul.

Below you'll find the video and video transcript introducing you to this week's quote and musings.

Scroll further and you'll discover this week's daily exercises, high vibe tune, and downloadable wallpapers.

Remember - always feel free to share your insights for each day's gratitude exercise in our Facebook group.

video transcript

Have you ever looked at someone who is happy and laughing, and thought to yourself “they must have a fabulous life”?

I know I have.

When we see someone who’s happy and seems to be loving their life, we assume they have it all; we assume that every part of their life is just perfect.

They mustn’t want for anything, right?

Yes, and no.

I’m sure happy people, if they took time out from being happy, could find something they would like more of in their life; more love, more money, better health, more success, more happiness… we all could and can.

So, if their lives aren’t perfect, just like our own, then why are they so happy? Why aren’t they focusing on what’s missing and trying to fill in the gaps? Why aren’t they chasing their dream and striving for a more fulfilled life?

Because happy people don’t choose to focus on the gaps, they don’t choose to focus on what’s missing. Rather they are grateful for everything they already have in their lives.

It is gratitude that creates a happy person because when they look around them, they feel contentment, and contentment attracts happiness.

When you are grateful for everything you have in your life, you’ll discover true happiness.

When you are grateful for everything you have in your life, you’re not focused on the missing pieces, on the gaps, on the dark voids of emptiness. Your focus is on all the blessings, both small and large, that you see around you, that you experience, that you receive.

A grateful person’s life is so full that they don’t have time or energy to waste on focusing on the gaps, they don’t even see the gaps. And when you don’t see the gaps, you feel only contentment, gratitude, and happiness.

So, whilst a happy person may be, and probably is, grateful for their life, a grateful person will always be happy with their life because they only see the joys, the fulfilment, the miracles and blessings, both small and large.

daily gratitude practice

Spend between 10 and 15 minutes focusing on the things that are missing in your life, the gaps in your life, the things you wish you had but don’t.

After those 10 to 15 minutes, turn inward and ask yourself “how am I feeling right now?”

Are your emotions high or low? Do you feel happy or frustrated? Do you feel fulfilled or unsatisfied? Do you feel full of energy or lack lustre?

When you focus on what’s missing, you’re focusing on something negative.

And when your focus turns to the negative, naturally your energy, your emotions, your mindset follow suit and become more negative.

Spend between 10 and 15 minutes focusing on everything and everyone you have in your life, expressing gratitude for every blessing both large and small.

After those 10 to 15 minutes, turn inward and check in on how you feel.

Are your emotions high or low? Do you feel happy or frustrated? Do you feel fulfilled or unsatisfied? Do you feel full of energy or lack lustre?

When you focus on what you already have in your life, you’re focusing on something positive.

And when your focus turns to the positive, naturally your energy, your emotions, your mindset follow suit and become more positive too.

Compare how you feel after today’s exercise with how you felt after yesterday’s exercise. Can you see the difference? Which feelings would you prefer to experience every day?

We’re going to do a shortened version of the previous days’ exercises.

First of all, spend about 5 minutes focusing on everything that’s missing in your life, the gaps.

Afterwards, spend about 5 minutes focusing on everything and everyone you have in your life, expressing gratitude for every blessing both large and small.

After the 10 minutes are up, answer the following questions:

Could you have more easily continued finding things to be grateful for after the time was up or finding things that are missing in your life?

When you practise gratitude every day for a while your mindset shifts, and you find it so much easier to find thing to be grateful for than things that are missing.

Did you notice the shift in your emotions and energy when you moved from the negative focus of things that are missing to the positive focus of gratitude for everything and everyone in your life?

It’s good to feel and recognise both negative and positive energy in your body. That way, when you drop into a negative emotion, you can pick up warning signs from your body and act on them before you realise in your mind what has happened.

Focus on something that is missing in your life, a gap in your life; something that, in the past, would have really niggled away at you, would have irritated you on a regular basis because it was missing.

How do you feel about that missing something now?

After months of practising gratitude daily, does that missing something niggle you as much now as it did in the past or have you been so focused on gratitude that you’ve altered your mindset so that something missing no longer even reaches your radar?

Can you see how much gratitude has changed your mindset and your outlook? Isn’t that something to be grateful for.

Think of something in the past that you enjoyed, that made you happy. Perhaps someone threw you a surprise party, or someone gave you an unexpected gift.

Think of something that made you happy but which, at the time, you didn’t or forget to express gratitude for.

Can you see how happiness can exist without gratitude? That feeling happy doesn’t not automatically translate into being grateful?

The two emotions, happiness and gratitude, are relatively close when we think of them in terms of vibrational energy. However, gratitude requires conscious awareness. You can feel happy and be happy without expressing it verbally or inwards. However, gratitude requires expression whether that expression is spoken out loud or quietly inwards.

Happiness is a feeling whereas gratitude is also an action.

Now think of something in the past for which you expressed heart-felt gratitude.

Did this something also make you happy?

When you feel grateful and express true gratitude for something, do you also experience happiness? Yes… gratitude is a higher vibrational energy which will also encompass the energy of happiness.

Think of someone, a friend or even someone famous, who you consider to be happy, whose life you consider (or have considered) to be full and close to perfect.

Now sit back and really think about their life and what is or could be missing.

For example, a famous person with children. Can you imagine their daily struggles trying to keep their children away from media attention?

A friend whose partner works away from home often. Do you think they, perhaps, miss each other’s company when they’re apart?

Can you see that nobody’s life is perfect, that everyone has gaps or missing pieces in their life?

The difference lies in those who are so grateful for what they have, they forget about the gaps and, so, in turn we also fail to see them until we dig a little or use our imaginations.

Consider some of the missing things, the gaps you focused on in Monday’s exercise.

Rather than seeing them as something negative, something missing, can you turn them around and find something positive about them?

Each of us has gaps in our lives, things that could be deemed as missing, if we choose to look for them. However, if we can see those perceived negatives as something positive, something to be grateful for, we can actually fill in the gaps until there actually are no gaps in our lives.

Feel free to share your insights for each day's exercise in our Facebook group.

and let's not forget...

This week's high vibe tune is a reminder that everyday should be the best day of your life

have gratitude wherever you go...

... with this week's gratitude quote wallpaper.

Note: details of how to download this week's wallpaper is provided below.

“It is not happy people who are grateful, it is grateful people who are happy” ~ Unknown

16:9

16:10

4:3

mobile

how to download your wallpaper

Before copying one of the pictures below, you'll want to quickly check your screen settings because the worst thing you can do is use a wallpaper with an aspect ratio that differs from the aspect ratio of your screen.

The aspect ratio of a rectangle is simply the proportion between width and height. The most common are 16:9, 16:10 and 4:3. And it will be for these 3 sizes that I shall provide you with your free wallpaper.

To find your screen resolution follow this basic guide. Steps for your computer may vary slightly but I hope this will give you some guidance:

  • Right-click the desktop and select Display settings.
  • Scroll down until you see "Resolution" (you may have to choose an "Advanced" option)
  • To find your aspect ratio, divide the width over the height. For example, if my resolution is 1920 x 1080 then I would divide 1920 over 1080 to get 1.778, which indicates a 16:9 resolution. Similarly, 1.6 indicated 16:10 and 1.333 indicates 4:3
  • When you've calculated your screen's aspect ratio, go to the picture below that matches that size
  • Right click on the picture and select "Set as Desktop Background"
  • Choose whether to "Fill", "Fit", or "Stretch" your picture - if you've chosen the right size "Fit" will be your best option
  • Select "Set Desktop Background" and you're done

  • First, save the wallpaper image to your phone by pressing your finger on the wallpaper image and hold down on it until you see a menu.
  • From here, click the “Save image” tab, and it will begin downloading.
  • The next step is to set this saved image as your wallpaper by pressing and holding a blank area on your screen (meaning where no apps are placed), and home screen options will appear.
  • Select 'add wallpaper' and choose whether the wallpaper is intended for 'Home screen', 'Lock screen', or 'Home and lock screen'.
  • Another set of options will appear where you can choose where the photo you would like to use will be coming from, namely the Gallery.
  • If necessary, crop the image to a suitable size. Once satisfied, simply click 'Done'.

  • First, save the wallpaper image to your phone by pressing your finger on the wallpaper image and hold down for about 2 seconds until a menu appears.
  • From here, click “Save Image“, and it will begin downloading.
  • The next step is to set this saved image as your wallpaper by, first, going to the 'Photos' app and selecting the wallpaper photo you've saved there.
  • Click on the share icon on the lower left corner of the screen, then select 'Use as Wallpaper'.
  • Then choose to set the photo as either the lock screen, home screen or both.