start monday with gratitude

week 49

Welcome to Week 49, lovely soul.

Below you'll find the video and video transcript introducing you to this week's quote and musings.

Scroll further and you'll discover this week's daily exercises, high vibe tune, and downloadable wallpapers.

Remember - always feel free to share your insights for each day's gratitude exercise in our Facebook group.

video transcript

Do you have a couple of people in your life who simply cannot be in the same room together? Within minutes of being together they can't help but bicker and row?

It's usually something that everyone who plans the seating arrangement at a wedding knows all about.

There are always the two cousins, friends, or close family members who cannot, under any circumstances, be placed at the same table... if, that is, you want everyone (including those also sitting at that table) to have a memorable time (for the right reasons).

They may try to be at their best behaviour but, at some stage, one of them will say the wrong thing, something that triggers the other, either intentionally or not, and that’s the end of the pleasantries, the end of the pretending.

Not only will it end in both people not enjoying the celebration, but it will also impact and affect anyone else sitting at the table. Everyone will sense the change in atmosphere, everyone will feel uncomfortable, everyone will stop enjoying themselves and the celebration.

And so it is with gratitude and fear.

They simply do not see eye to eye and cannot be in the same room together for any length of time.

Whilst it may seem that you can initially balance the energies of each emotion, gratitude and fear, before too long the pressure will rise, tensions will strain, and reaching a breaking point is inevitable. Because gratitude and fear are just not compatible. They will never see eye to eye. They cannot sit at the same table together.

When you are grateful, you are focusing on the positive things and welcoming them into your life. Gratitude is a positive and high vibrational energy. Whereas fear is a negative and low vibrational energy.

They're poles apart.

One must cancel the other out.

So, when you focus on positivity and gratefulness, fear naturally fades away and leaves a gap which needs to be filled by something that has a similar vibration to gratitude, the energy you're focused on.

And just where gratefulness and fear are poles apart, their respective associates (abundance and lack) are just as far apart.

If two people don’t see eye to eye and shouldn’t be seated at the same table at a wedding celebration, their respective partners shouldn’t also. Because, when the curtains fall, when the pleasantries can no longer be feigned, the partners will also step in to show their respective support.

When you remove fear through gratitude, placing them at separate tables, you’ll also remove their respective partners, lack from abundance. And with fear and lack removed, it gives more room, more freedom, more breathing space for gratitude and abundance.

daily gratitude practice

Think of time when you felt afraid to voice your opinion about something.

Perhaps a number of people around you were in a discussion, and you had a point to make. But you felt afraid to speak up.

Or perhaps someone was chastising you about something or wrongly accusing you of something, and you were afraid to voice your side.

How did you feel in that situation? How did you feel as that situation played out?

Lean into and really feel those emotions.

And, then after the event, how did you feel? Did you regret not saying anything? Did you think of something that you could have or should have said to get your point across?

And what happened as a result of not speaking up?

What did you lose out on as a result? Did you, perhaps, lose out on people hearing and considering your opinion? Did you, perhaps, lose out on the feeling of pride that you stood up for yourself, your beliefs, your principles?

Would you have felt grateful for the outcome?

The outcome probably didn’t go your way, it wasn’t the outcome you would have wished, so you wouldn’t have had much to be grateful for, right?

Take the example from yesterday and replay the scenario in your mind, only this time, you speak up in a respectful and loving yet strong and determined way.

You can never know how things would have played out if you had spoken up. However, I want you to focus on the best-case scenario.

What could have been the most positive thing that could have happened as a result of you facing your fear and speaking up? How would you have felt as a result? What would you have gained as a result?

Can you see how much better you would have felt? How much lighter and higher your energy would have become, an energy closer in vibration to that of gratitude than that of fear? How much more abundant you would have felt? How grateful would you feel if that had had been the result you achieved?

Think back to a situation where you were afraid, where fear felt like it was controlling you from taking action. However, you dug deep, you gave yourself a pep-talk, and you took action. You looked fear in the face, took it on, and successfully pushed it aside.

Can you remember how you felt as a result? Can you remember being grateful for having the courage to say ‘no’ to fear? If you can’t, looking back, can you see what you had to be grateful for?

And, as a result of taking action, of not being stopped by fear, how much more did you gain and receive in comparison with if you’d given into the emotion of fear and not taken action? How much fuller, how much more freeing, how much better was the outcome because you faced fear and stood up to it?

Think of something that you really wanted to receive, something that you knew would change your life if you received it.

Something that was a ‘make-or-break’ kind of thing, that so much depended on you receiving it.

Something that, when you reflected on it, your head was full of thoughts like “What if it doesn’t happen or I don’t receive it?” or “I wish I could receive it but what if I don’t”.

Do you know that “what if” type thoughts are actually fear-based thoughts?

Now, whether you did receive that thing in the end or not, think back to how much effort you put in to try to receive it. I’m guessing it would have been a lot.

Because on one side you were saying “I really want that” and on the other side you were pushing it away by saying, “but what if?” So, it was a real tug-of-war for you to attract that thing into your life. And it would have taken great effort.

When we come from a fear-based perspective, it’s difficult to manifest the things we want because fear and lack go hand in hand.

We are manifesting all the time.

However, many of us think we can’t manifest because we’re not normally manifesting the great and positive things into our life.

However, manifesting works in both ways – you manifest both the good and the not-so-pleasant into your life. You create everything in your life.

The only difference is that when you manifest something good and positive into your life, you have done so from a place of expansion, a place of abundance, a place of gratitude.

And when you have manifested something not-so-pleasant into your life, you’ve done so by being consumed by lack and fear.

Take a moment to think about all the not-so-pleasant things you have manifested into your life.

Can you trace back to how you were thinking or how you were feeling at that time?

It’s unlikely that you were in an abundant and grateful mindset. More likely you were embodied by lack and fear at that time.

We are manifesting all the time.

However, many of us think we can’t manifest because we’re not normally manifesting the great and positive things into our life.

However, manifesting works in both ways – you manifest both the good and the not-so-pleasant into your life. You create everything in your life.

The only difference is that when you manifest something good and positive into your life, you have done so from a place of expansion, a place of abundance, a place of gratitude.

And when you have manifested something not-so-pleasant into your life, you’ve done so by being consumed by lack and fear.

Take a moment to think about all the not-so-pleasant things you have manifested into your life.

Can you trace back to how you were thinking or how you were feeling at that time?

It’s unlikely that you were in an abundant and grateful mindset. More likely you were embodied by lack and fear at that time.

Do you have a fear that you really don’t want to happen in your life? It could be small, or it could be big.

When you think of that fear, how do you feel? What thoughts run through your head?

You now know that we manifest both positive and negative things into our life.

If your thoughts are fear-based, which they will be if you fear something might happen in your life, then what do you think you’re going to manifest? You’re going to manifest the very thing you fear.

But what could happen if you took that fear and turned it around and into something you could be grateful for?

What would happen if you took the fear and the lack and changed it into something abundant to be grateful for?

You have a better likelihood of attracting something positive instead, right?

So, now when you focus on that far that you really don’t want to happen in your life, I invite you to change your thinking, change how you view the situation, and flip it into something to be grateful for.

Feel free to share your insights for each day's exercise in our Facebook group.

and let's not forget...

This week's high vibe tune invites you to not let anything pull you down because, when you let go, you can have it all. So, go on and shine...

have gratitude wherever you go...

... with this week's gratitude quote wallpaper.

Note: details of how to download this week's wallpaper is provided below.

“When you are grateful, fear disappears and abundance appears” ~ Tony Robbins

16:9

16:10

4:3

mobile

how to download your wallpaper

Before copying one of the pictures below, you'll want to quickly check your screen settings because the worst thing you can do is use a wallpaper with an aspect ratio that differs from the aspect ratio of your screen.

The aspect ratio of a rectangle is simply the proportion between width and height. The most common are 16:9, 16:10 and 4:3. And it will be for these 3 sizes that I shall provide you with your free wallpaper.

To find your screen resolution follow this basic guide. Steps for your computer may vary slightly but I hope this will give you some guidance:

  • Right-click the desktop and select Display settings.
  • Scroll down until you see "Resolution" (you may have to choose an "Advanced" option)
  • To find your aspect ratio, divide the width over the height. For example, if my resolution is 1920 x 1080 then I would divide 1920 over 1080 to get 1.778, which indicates a 16:9 resolution. Similarly, 1.6 indicated 16:10 and 1.333 indicates 4:3
  • When you've calculated your screen's aspect ratio, go to the picture below that matches that size
  • Right click on the picture and select "Set as Desktop Background"
  • Choose whether to "Fill", "Fit", or "Stretch" your picture - if you've chosen the right size "Fit" will be your best option
  • Select "Set Desktop Background" and you're done

  • First, save the wallpaper image to your phone by pressing your finger on the wallpaper image and hold down on it until you see a menu.
  • From here, click the “Save image” tab, and it will begin downloading.
  • The next step is to set this saved image as your wallpaper by pressing and holding a blank area on your screen (meaning where no apps are placed), and home screen options will appear.
  • Select 'add wallpaper' and choose whether the wallpaper is intended for 'Home screen', 'Lock screen', or 'Home and lock screen'.
  • Another set of options will appear where you can choose where the photo you would like to use will be coming from, namely the Gallery.
  • If necessary, crop the image to a suitable size. Once satisfied, simply click 'Done'.

  • First, save the wallpaper image to your phone by pressing your finger on the wallpaper image and hold down for about 2 seconds until a menu appears.
  • From here, click “Save Image“, and it will begin downloading.
  • The next step is to set this saved image as your wallpaper by, first, going to the 'Photos' app and selecting the wallpaper photo you've saved there.
  • Click on the share icon on the lower left corner of the screen, then select 'Use as Wallpaper'.
  • Then choose to set the photo as either the lock screen, home screen or both.