start monday with gratitude

week 22

Welcome to Week 22, lovely soul.

Below you'll find the video and video transcript introducing you to this week's quote and musings.

Scroll further and you'll discover this week's daily exercises, high vibe tune, and downloadable wallpapers.

Have gratitude for all that you have, and you can be happy exactly as you are

Mandy Ingber

video transcript

I want a bigger house

I want a faster car

I want more money

I want a better job

I want to be happy

I want to fall in love

I want… I want… I want…

When you live in a state of want, you’ll never achieve satisfaction, and you’ll never experience true happiness and fulfilment because you keep moving the goalposts. You want something bigger and better and if/when you achieve it the satisfaction is short-lived because, before long, you move onto the next desire, your next want… it’s like a vicious cycle.

Wanting is all about living in and for the future. And when you can only see the future and when you only believe that something in the future will bring you happiness and satisfaction, you’ll never ever get to experience that happiness and satisfaction as it is, because it will always be something you foresee as lying in the future. Your tomorrow will always be tomorrow. It will never become today.

However, when you stop and take stock of all you already have in life. When you are truly grateful for all the blessings that already exist in your life, your need for wanting will wane. Because when you’re grateful for what you have, today, you move your perspective from the future to the present. And it’s only in the present that we can experience happiness, satisfaction, and fulfilment.

When you sit each day and express gratitude for everything you have in your life, both big and small, your focus will begin to change, your energetic vibration will begin to rise, your state of happiness will be enhanced.

And as you express gratitude for all you have today, without fear for tomorrow or desire for the future, you will see that you have today all that you need for today. And with that comes contentment, happiness, satisfaction, fulfilment.

Only when we live in the present can we be truly grateful for who we are and what blessings we have. Only when we live in the present can we be truly happy exactly as we are.

daily gratitude practice

We’ve all done it. We’re all guilty of wanting.

Spend today thinking of everything that you currently want to have or be.

Why do you want them?

What’s your reason for wanting them?

Write everything down.

Think of something you’ve wanted for a relatively long time, something that you’ve been working towards. Choose something that doesn’t feel frivolous, but something that you know would make a difference to your life and, perhaps, also the lives of those you love.

It could be a better home for your family, a safer car, being able to only eat organic food.

Looking back to when you first wanted this positive addition or change in your life, have you been tracking your success in making your way towards it?

When you first said, for example, “I want a better home in a better neighbourhood so my kids can go outside without me worrying about them”, did you break down what steps you’d need to achieve to get that home or did you just put it out to the Universe, hoping that the Universe would deliver?

Have you, at any stage, celebrated your progress or is celebration something you plan to do only if and when you achieve this goal?

If we don’t break a want down into smaller steps and watch our progress, celebrating every step along the way, it’ll be so much harder to truly celebrate achieving that at the end of, what could be, a very long road. Because by the time you achieve what you wanted, it will have taken so much time and effort that you’ll feel flat, you may have forgotten along the way what you’re working towards, or you’ll have already moved on to your next want.

So today, I invite you to think of something you’ve wanted for a relatively long time, something that would make a positive difference. And I want you to break your journey down, from the beginning to today, into steps.

Then I invite you to celebrate and express gratitude for achieving each and every one of those steps.

When you do, that will give you a greater sense of accomplishment and you’ll greater appreciate, today, how far you’ve already come. You’ll greater appreciate how much better your life is today than it was at the start.

And now that you can see just how much you’ve already achieved and just how far you’ve come, can you whole-heartedly, today, simply celebrate where you are today without looking to the future with want?

Go back to the list you made on Monday and choose just one thing. Choose your biggest desire from that list.

Now, let’s suppose you are never destined to achieve this, that whatever this desire is will never come into your reality.

Take some time today imagining what your life would look like without this. Think only in the positive.

What positives will arise by not achieving or receiving this desire?

Be imaginative. Be creative.

For example, what if you wanted to attract a lot more money because you think life will be less stressful and you could buy more for your family.

What positives could derive from not achieving this?

Well, you can remain in the same smaller house that you currently live in where, let’s say, there is only one living room which ensures that you all, as a family, get to spend quality family together, your kids don’t get anymore fancy technological toys and gadgets which keep them hidden in their room for hours and stop them going outside in the fresh air etc etc.

Really invest time in being creative and finding the positives, appreciating what you already have.

Can you now see just how much you have in your life already?

You just needed to pay more attention to what you have than what you wanted.

Express gratitude for all you already have.

When we focus our attention to wanting, we’re living for tomorrow, a tomorrow that never actually comes. Whereas mindfulness teaches to live in the present moment, expressing gratitude for what we have already.

Today I invite you to take stock of everything you already have in your life. See just how abundant your life truly is.

There is no time limit on this exercise, simply keep doing it until you truly and wholeheartedly appreciate every blessing in your life and your focus returns to the present, no longer dreaming of the future and everything you would want.

Look back to something you wanted and received or achieved.

When you first wanted it, no doubt you were excited about it, were willing to doing anything to achieve or receive it. Then, after a long time of trying, after putting in a lot of effort, you did achieve or receive it, did it really live up to your initial expectations?

Usually when we first start out on our journey towards something we want, we're full of excitement and anticipation.

But as the hard work, as the long journey takes it toll and takes it time, our excitement begins to wane.

And, whilst we may gain a sense of fulfilment and achievement when we achieve or receive what we first wanted, the excitement associated with it has waned, we’re nowhere near as excited about achieving/receiving it as we were at the very start of the journey.

Step back in time to the start of this journey and remember how you felt and then consider how differently you felt when you did achieve/receive it.

Write down everything you felt, give yourself a mark out of 10 for your level of excitement and energy and the start of the journey compared to the mark you give yourself at the end.

Take your list from Monday and re-write it.

This time we’re going to take want and change it to need. And I invite you to re-write everything in that list, one at a time, with the prefix “I need…”

So if, on your list you wrote down, “a faster car”, I invite you today to write “I need a faster car”.

Then go through your list, one by one, and strike out anything that you want but which you actually don’t need. In other words, having that won’t significantly change your life in a truly meaningful way.

For example, what benefit in reality does a faster car bring into your life? You can drive faster and, no doubt, you’ll feel more powerful, perhaps more confident; your ego will receive a boost. But is that a game-changer in your life? Is that really something you cannot survive without? If it’s not, then how have you survived to date?

Look again at Monday’s list and pull out anything that you wrote down that is not something tangible.

So, for example, did you write something like “happiness” or “wealth” or “success”? How would you know when you reach happiness, for example?

Desires like happiness, wealth, success are immeasurable. Therefore, as time goes by, more likely than not your idea of happiness, wealth, success etc will change, your goalposts will move. And, as a result, you will never achieve happiness, wealth, success.

Often, also, we write down such wants because we’re comparing ourselves to others we deem to be better, to have achieved what we think we want. However, desires such as happiness, wealth and success will look different to different people. If you had no-one to compare yourself to would you really be striving towards these desires or could you already feel happy, wealthy, and successful?

Take this new list that you have created today and create positive gratitude statements around them. For example, with regards happiness you could say, “I am grateful that I am happy”.

Repeat those positive gratitude statements everyday and watch as your attitude towards happiness, wealth, and success etc changes over time.

and let's not forget...

This week's high vibe tune is all about wanting

have gratitude wherever you go...

... with this week's gratitude quote wallpaper.

Note: details of how to download this week's wallpaper is provided below.

“Have gratitude for all that you have, and you can be happy exactly as you are” ~ Mandy Ingber





how to download your wallpaper

Before copying one of the pictures below, you'll want to quickly check your screen settings because the worst thing you can do is use a wallpaper with an aspect ratio that differs from the aspect ratio of your screen.

The aspect ratio of a rectangle is simply the proportion between width and height. The most common are 16:9, 16:10 and 4:3. And it will be for these 3 sizes that I shall provide you with your free wallpaper.

To find your screen resolution follow this basic guide. Steps for your computer may vary slightly but I hope this will give you some guidance:

  • Right-click the desktop and select Display settings.
  • Scroll down until you see "Resolution" (you may have to choose an "Advanced" option)
  • To find your aspect ratio, divide the width over the height. For example, if my resolution is 1920 x 1080 then I would divide 1920 over 1080 to get 1.778, which indicates a 16:9 resolution. Similarly, 1.6 indicated 16:10 and 1.333 indicates 4:3
  • When you've calculated your screen's aspect ratio, go to the picture below that matches that size
  • Right click on the picture and select "Set as Desktop Background"
  • Choose whether to "Fill", "Fit", or "Stretch" your picture - if you've chosen the right size "Fit" will be your best option
  • Select "Set Desktop Background" and you're done

  • First, save the wallpaper image to your phone by pressing your finger on the wallpaper image and hold down on it until you see a menu.
  • From here, click the “Save image” tab, and it will begin downloading.
  • The next step is to set this saved image as your wallpaper by pressing and holding a blank area on your screen (meaning where no apps are placed), and home screen options will appear.
  • Select 'add wallpaper' and choose whether the wallpaper is intended for 'Home screen', 'Lock screen', or 'Home and lock screen'.
  • Another set of options will appear where you can choose where the photo you would like to use will be coming from, namely the Gallery.
  • If necessary, crop the image to a suitable size. Once satisfied, simply click 'Done'.

  • First, save the wallpaper image to your phone by pressing your finger on the wallpaper image and hold down for about 2 seconds until a menu appears.
  • From here, click “Save Image“, and it will begin downloading.
  • The next step is to set this saved image as your wallpaper by, first, going to the 'Photos' app and selecting the wallpaper photo you've saved there.
  • Click on the share icon on the lower left corner of the screen, then select 'Use as Wallpaper'.
  • Then choose to set the photo as either the lock screen, home screen or both.