i want to break free!

Limiting beliefs are the invisible forces that quietly shape our thoughts, behaviours, and ultimately, our lives. Often inherited from family or absorbed from societal expectations, these beliefs can also be self-created during times of emotional stress or trauma. While they may have once served as protective mechanisms, over time they can become outdated and restrictive, holding us back from achieving our true potential.

Limiting beliefs usually begin as subconscious conclusions we draw based on past experiences, especially during childhood. Perhaps you were told money doesn’t grow on trees, or that emotions should be kept private. Over time, these messages solidify into personal truths. These beliefs might not even be yours originally. They could be echoes of your parents’ or grandparents’ experiences, or cultural norms passed down through generations. Others are born from your own experiences, like a failure in school or a broken relationship, leading to self-protective beliefs like "I'm not smart enough" or "I'm not lovable."

I’ll never forget my own primary school days, especially the teacher who believed it was helpful to publicly shame his young students by placing a paper cone on their head, marking them as the “dunce” of the day. Although I was never the one wearing the cone of shame, I might as well have been. As a sensitive empath, I absorbed the humiliation in the room like a sponge. I felt their shame deeply… and somewhere along the way, I internalised the belief: “I am stupid.”

That belief didn’t just sit quietly in the background. It shaped my choices. Fearing judgment, I decided it was safer to hide than to risk being seen. I dimmed my light, shrank myself down, and stayed in the shadows where it felt safer, though never truly fulfilling.

It’s only in recent years, through the guidance and support of my energy mentor, that I’ve begun rewriting that story. I’m finally stepping into my light, creating soul-led online courses, sharing my voice on social media, and showing up with a confidence I never thought possible.

Limiting beliefs impact all of us in all areas of our life. For example, in relationships, one such limiting belief may be "I'm too much to love". If you grew up being told that you were overly sensitive or dramatic, you might have internalised the belief that your emotions are a burden. As a result, you may suppress your feelings, settle for emotionally unavailable partners, or push people away before they can get too close. Over time, this belief can sabotage intimacy, making it hard to form deep, authentic connections.

When it comes to money and your career, you might carry the belief, "I have to work hard to earn money". This common belief, often inherited from generations of working-class ancestors, creates a scarcity mindset. You may find yourself overworking, undercharging, or burning out because you believe rest or ease equals laziness. Even when money flows in, it may not stay, because you subconsciously don't believe you're worthy of financial abundance unless you’ve "earned" it through struggle.

In your career you might find you subconsciously exercise the limiting belief, "I'm not good enough to lead". A belief like this can stem from early school experiences or a critical authority figure. You may find you avoid promotion opportunities, shrink in meetings, or never fully step into your power. This can stifle your career growth and keep you stuck in roles that don’t reflect your true capabilities.

You may even experience a damaging limiting belief when it comes to your health. "My body always lets me down" may have been one you’ve adopted following repeated illnesses or injuries, forming the belief that your body is fragile or broken. This belief can become self-fulfilling, causing you to ignore self-care or remain disconnected from your physical body, which only worsens the problem over time.

For years, decades even, I carried a belief that quietly shaped how I saw myself: “I’m not a creative person”. It became a silent truth I rarely questioned, even though it quietly dictated what I allowed myself to try, enjoy, or express.

I can trace that belief back to a single moment in grammar school, when my art teacher harshly criticised my work during a parent-teacher evening. I still remember the sting of her words, how they sank deep and stayed with me long after the conversation ended. That single moment made me retreat. I shut the door on my creative self, convinced that it was safer to avoid the risk of being judged than to put myself out there again. And with that retreat, I missed out on the joy, freedom, and soul-expression that creativity brings.

These days, that belief doesn’t hold me the way it once did. In fact, I’ve started reclaiming creativity through my work. When I record oracle card readings, design online courses, or create healing audios, I call them exactly what they are: creations. I even tell my bunny, Bobo, “I’m off to create some videos,” or my husband, “I created a new audio today.” Yet, outside of work, the old story still lingers. Just the idea of joining a painting or pottery workshop with friends stirs something uncomfortable in me. That old belief whispers again. And more often than not, I let it talk me out of going.

The difference now, however, is I hear it. I see it. And that awareness gives me the power to keep rewriting the story.

I have a question for you to ponder for a little while… as is the case with my limiting belief, “I’m not a creative person”, do you need to know your limiting beliefs to release them?

This is a powerful and often misunderstood question. Many personal development paths emphasise the importance of identifying and analysing each belief in order to clear it. While awareness can be incredibly valuable and lead to conscious transformation, it's not always necessary to unpack every single belief to release its grip on your life.

Energy healing modalities, subconscious reprogramming, somatic therapy, and even breathwork allow you to release dense patterns without needing to intellectually understand their origins. These approaches bypass the analytical mind and work with the body and energy field, where these beliefs are often stored.

Think of it like cleaning out a cluttered room. Sometimes you need to take each item out and decide whether it serves you. Other times, you simply know that it no longer fits your life, and you're ready to let it go in one sweep. The same is true for limiting beliefs.

There are many ways in which you can begin dissolving your old, outdated, and limiting belief patterns. For example,

• Journaling and Reflection where you regularly write about your current challenges and ask what beliefs might be underpinning them.

• Inner Child Work which invites you to reconnect with younger parts of yourself that originally formed the belief, offering them compassion and new truths.

• Subconscious Reprogramming where, through the use of repeating empowering affirmations, listening to audio subliminals, or following subliminal creative visualisations, you gradually rewire your subconscious.

• Somatic Practices such as Yoga, breathwork and colour breathing, can help release beliefs stored in the nervous system.

• Energy Healing such as Reiki, EFT tapping, and other methods which work on a deeper, often non-verbal level.

Imagine… waking up each morning with a deep sense of inner peace, no longer hearing the inner critic that once ran your thoughts. You move through your day making choices based on love, not fear. In your relationships, you feel seen, valued, and safe to express your true self. You speak your truth without fear of rejection.

In your career, you go after what you want without hesitation. You trust your talents, take risks, and create opportunities that align with your passion and purpose. Money flows more easily because you believe you deserve abundance. You're no longer trapped by the idea that success has to be hard.

Your health improves because you're kinder to your body. You listen to its needs, nurture it with intention, and release the stress of unworthiness. You feel creatively alive, curious, and willing to try new things. Life becomes an expansive space where you’re free to grow, explore, and thrive.

Releasing limiting beliefs isn’t just about improving a single area of life, it’s about reclaiming your freedom. Whether you inherited them or created them yourself, these beliefs are not fixed. They can be unlearned, replaced, and released. You don’t need to have everything figured out to begin; just a willingness to let go is enough to start the journey.

When you commit to clearing what no longer serves you, you step into the full truth of who you are: limitless, worthy, powerful, and free.