it's okay to say no

I've felt very challenged recently.

Not so long ago I changed the direction of my life and started walking down a whole new path. My new path is in no way related to my past life in corporate (when I was an accountant) nor is it related to my previous business (handmade skincare), although I have carried forward the self-love part of that business.

My new path has opened me up to share healing messages of love and guidance from the angels and is also leading me down other avenues such as mediumship.

What's important is that this new path is focusing on areas of my life that have always been part of my life but which I have never allowed to shine fully and freely, before.

A major part of walking a new path, of starting a new business is the need to build up a solid client base. And that takes time and effort. For me, personally, this has meant working on my visibility issues, my need to be liked and accepted, and building up my self-confidence and self-esteem; challenges that have been forever present throughout my life.

Asides from that, when you build a client-base it's helpful to offer something that will draw your ideal clients to you. And, after a few different ideas and attempts to draw people to me, what I discovered worked the best for me was to offer a free 1-question remote reading.

For me that has been a bit of a game-changer as it gives potential clients the opportunity to experience what I offer in the most gentle and loving way, especially if they've never experienced and angel card reading and are feeling a bit nervous and apprehensive.

Unfortunately, however, not everyone appreciates the gift of a one-time free reading. And, sadly, one such person came into my life.

She signed up for her free angel card reading and shortly after she responded to an email I sent out inviting her to share a current struggle with me. My idea was that I'd give another short free reading for anyone who responded to that email. And so I sent her another free reading.

A day or so after I'd sent her her second free reading, she asked if she could receive guidance on a specific area of her life. In other words she was asking for another free reading.

I have to admit, I felt a bit perturbed by the request because the guidance she was looking for was very similar to the second reading I had sent her. So I advised her of this. But in return she only came back saying she would prefer guidance on her current issue and the specific (new) question she had sent.

Whether it was the people-pleaser inside of me or my lack of self-esteem that rose to the surface, I gave her some guidance through email support, not through an angel card reading, although I did consult the angels for help and guidance. But this wasn't enough for her.

A few days later I received an email which showed her true colours. Her email was very short, but not necessarily sweet. It read: "Hey! When can I have a free reading?"

It was then that I realised that this wasn't the kind of person I wanted around me, energetically or in any other way. I knew that I had to make it clear to her, in the most kind way, that pestering me for free readings was not acceptable. So I did the kindest thing I could do and pointed her to my website where she could choose and book a paid angel card reading of her choice.

After that I heard nothing. She promptly disappeared.

I feel this sounds is a bit like a she-said-I-said kind of tit-for-tat blogpost and that's not the kind of energy I want to create or have around me. But I've felt the need to share this experience in the hope that you can benefit and learn from it too.

You see, we're not here to serve and heal everyone who walks across our path. And nor should we be. Sadly, there are some people who live their life taking from others but giving nothing in return. And the type of healing and service I offer, and many other souls offer, can never benefit people like that because they simply don't see, feel, appreciate or understand the healing I offer through the angels. So my readings will never touch or heal them in the way they touch and heal so many other lovely souls. And I'm here to touch and heal as many souls as I can; souls who will benefit from what I offer.

In hindsight I know I should have nipped it in the bud much sooner. And rather than take the softly-softly don't-want-to-rock-the-boat low-self-esteem option of directing her to my paid services and trusting this would encourage her to disappear, I should have approached the situation with confidence in myself, confidence in what I offer, confidence in the knowing that she epitomised the very type of person I do not want to work with or serve. I should have simply said "No". Because it's okay to say no.

You and I are not here to touch, heal, impact every living soul on this planet. We're here to touch, heal, serve the ones who need and will benefit from what we have to offer. The ones who, in turn, will touch, heal and serve others who cross their own life-path. And that's okay. That's how we fulfill our life's purpose. That's how we should journey along our life path. And, ultimately, that's how we create a better and more loving world.

Viv xx